Controlling your anger while carrying concealed

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Life is a big ball of stress. Whether you are stuck behind the person who can’t seem to find the gas pedal during your morning commute or you get two sips of your coffee before you spill it all over your pants five minutes after you get to work.

Something is always waiting around the corner to evoke a fire inside you where you’re waiting for the last little thing before you snap. The thing is, as a person with a firearm on your person, you can’t exactly go on a rampage to take out your aggression. You could get in big trouble and possibly lose your right to carry and/or own a firearm.

Some people may try to end the argument by displaying their concealed weapon.

Showing your weapon with the intent to intimidate someone is called brandishing.

Depending on the circumstances, you could be up for a felony or a misdemeanor. The punishment could be in the ballpark of 3 years in jail.

The circumstances can also play a big roll in how you may be charged. Assault with a deadly weapon is dangerously close to brandishing a weapon.

Similarities between “brandishing a weapon” and “Assault with a Deadly Weapon”



In legal terms, there are some differences between the charges of brandishing a weapon - or showing a firearm for no acceptable reason - and assault with a deadly weapon...but there are a lot of things both crimes have in common. The dividing line between the one and the other can be very fine.

Take, for instance, the differences in the state of..say...California. The two pertinent laws are contained in Penal Code 417 PC and 245 PC. Some factors that are common to both offenses include (but are not limited to):
* there is no requirement that you actually use or discharge your weapon,
* there is no requirement that the alleged victim see the weapon,
* there is no requirement that you actually harm the alleged victim, and
* committing the offense against a police officer who is engaged in the performance of his/her duties subjects you to increased penalties.

Differences between Brandishing and Assault with a Deadly Weapon

Just like there are similarities between the two offenses, there are differences as well. Some of these include (but again, are not limited to):

* ADW requires that you intend to harm the alleged victim; brandishing a weapon has no such requirement,
* ADW involves firearms, deadly weapons or “other means of force likely to produce great bodily injury” -- brandishing a weapon doesn't include “other means of force”, which means that,
* you can't be convicted of California Penal Code 417 PC merely for using your body as a weapon like you can under Penal Code 245.29

That is what California law says the differences are. Depending on circumstances, pulling a gun on someone for any reason other than actual, legitimate self-defense may get you charged with both...or convicted. A conviction of either crime will result in - at the very least - some time in the Big House and forfeiture of your firearms, possibly for life. Now that we know what kind of trouble our anger can cause, let’s take a look at some ways to calm down a bit. I’ll try not to make it too Dr. Phil.


Recognize When You’re Super Angry


The first step is to take a look at how often you feel like you are angry to the point of irrationality and losing control. Trouble of any sort - including legal trouble - often begin when irrational impulses and thoughts are given in to, especially if one is angered to the point of irrational thoughts, impulses, behaviors or actions.

Being aware of these states is the first step towards gaining control of them. If you recognize that you are becoming irrationally angry, to the verge of losing control, that's a good time to take a step back from a situation. Also, pay attention to what causes you to get angry. Awareness and management of your triggers is vitally important.


Assess Your Triggers


Think back about the times you were mad and see what got your panties in a bunch. Is your day full of the stupidest people this earth has to offer? Do you seem to have an idiot magnet in your pocket and you can’t seem to do anything without getting angry?

Well brother, the problem might just be you.

Anger is easy to build on. When something goes wrong the stress starts to build. Then, before you know it you’re keying the poor old lady’s car who was the reason you were late to work. Knowing what really grinds your gears is a great bit of knowledge because then steps can be made to avoid those circumstances whenever possible.


Be Cool, Man


Look at it like this. What good will it do to hit a guy or break a window or threaten someone with your gun? It will cause more harm than good. When people are instigating you and trying to find your breaking point, walk away. When you are carrying a gun and in an argument which is more important, being right or being unarmed for the rest of your days?

In case you haven’t noticed, John Q. Public is being taught guns are bad. What this means to you is, when someone is intimidated by someone like yourself and they see a gun in your waistband holster, they will feel like you are going to use it. Because this person felt intimidated or threatened, this is considered brandishing. And let’s face it, people feel threatened by the color of snow or appalled when someone is exercising their rights.

The overall takeaway from all of this is, make sure you are conscious of your actions. Knowing when to walk away can be the difference between being a responsible gun owner and a felon. A good quality holster will also be half the battle to keeping your firearm 100% concealed, take a look: Quality IWB concealment holsters

What’s your take on anger issues and carrying a weapon? Do you have any tips about how you handle stressful situations?



About The Author

Trevor Dobrygoski has been a freelance copywriter since 2009. He has written about many different topics over the years. His 9-5 is outfitting police and other public safety vehicles with all of the equipment the law enforcement and other first responders need to save lives. When not working and writing, he is coaching, refereeing and playing soccer.